​My name is Grace. I've spent the better part of my life feeling overwhelmed and confused. I thought once I reached adulthood, it was all supposed to be easier and decision making simpler. I was convinced that because I had been a good student, I could check those life skills off my to-do list.

 

Then I became a parent. One autistic son and one neurotypical son. Both beautiful but as opposite as can be. Meeting the needs of both led to a huge amount of stress and anxiety. So many decisions to make. So many options to wade through. So many opinions from Everyone on Everything. And precious few people to talk to about it in a way that felt constructive, not prescriptive.  

 

My logical brain said "I've learned what to do. If this isn't working, the problem must be me." ​​​So I tried harder. And harder still. I read books, articles, and blog posts. I followed all the 10 Steps, 5 Steps, and Top 3 lists. I did yoga. I meditated.  ​

 

Fast forward a couple of decades. My boys were nearing adulthood and parenting became less intensive. On the outside, I looked like I was holding it all together. On the inside, I was burnt out. I thought I just needed something new, something not focused on parenting and special needs. In 2022, I signed up for life coach training. Being immersed in the training and practicum did in fact start a new chapter in my life, but the first person it helped was me.

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I learned how I take in information, process it, and then move forward with decisions. I learned the value of speaking out loud my thoughts, feelings, and circumstances with someone else who can listen and reflect back. As I progressed through the program, using the tools I learned started to become automatic. Reaching out to fellow classmates for processing became automatic.

 

Decision making did start to feel simpler, but not always easy. Some choices are just hard to make, no matter how much clarity you get around it. What I thought I was doing out of a desire to help others ended up being my lifeline to clarity and confidence. 

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My sons are now young adults. I've had plenty of opportunities to practice going from confusion to clarity to confident choices as I've supported one child transition to adulthood within the disability services system and another child as he's navigated the transition to college life.

 

My hope is to support you as you find your own way to go from confusion to clarity to confident choices. ​